Our friends from church are on their first trip to the Hawaiian Islands. I have been fortunate enough to travel from Minnesota to Hawaii during February — more than once, even — and have celebrated Valentine’s Day on the Big Island with my husband and a coterie of beloved family members. The waiter at Huggo’s is not to be believed: How can he be so good, so funny, so endearing, that all who are in the know ask for him? “Yes, we’d like a reservation for Feb. 14. And we would like to be seated in Island Johnny’s section, please!”
Mickey would ask and, almost always, she would receive her wish. We all would benefit from her care and thoughtfulness and just downright deep knowledge. It’s always so, traveling with Mickey and Jim: They are in-the-know, up-to-speed, ready-to-go, caring, generous, and understand when to give their fellow travelers some space and when to urge the party to get off their duffs and get this party started.
How does she do it? I don’t know but I have a couple of guesses. She’s the eldest daughter of the family, super-responsible, a helper at home when her mom went to work while they were children, the adult child of a man who was loving and kind (but also may have had alcohol issues, may he rest in peace).
Mickey can be blunt and direct, which is refreshing in Minnesota, where indirection and passive-aggressiveness and hiding feelings are defaults. [I love Minnesota, maybe because I hate conflict and would, in general, prefer to paper over differences and move on . . . and I’m not the only one. That Scandinavian reserve can come in handy whilst I take a few minutes to bring my Scots-Irish temper under control. BTW, The cold, sunny winter days are neat, too, as long as you have a heavy coat and boots; snowshoes or cross-country skies help warm a person, too, once you get them out of the basement and put them on.]
Jeff and I have traveled with Mickey and Jim to Hawaii, to London — alas, we did not see the Queen, but we did tour Parliament! — and to southern France, with Jeff’s brother and our sister-in-law, Lynn. Places I might have never seen, if Mickey hadn’t asked: “Say, are you and Jeff available in September to go to London with us?” Are we?! You bet. We will make it so!
So Mickey is my sister-in-law’s sister. She makes me feel that I am one blessed person in my Jensen, Jared and Bailey family connections! That’s another reason to love Minnesota. When I divorced from my first husband a couple of decades back, my brother Rich asked me why I didn’t move back home, meaning Washington State.
Tempting, but after a pause, I replied: “It feels like home here.”
And it feels like home in part because of relatives like Mickey and Lynn, their brothers, and the passel of kids and grandkids to whom they are mom and grandmother. And who are wonderful people in their own right. Mickey, however, deserves accolades as one of the most loving people I know.
Hey, Mickey, how ya doing? Thanks for taking us along to Hawaii, London, France, Arizona, and to your place on the lake! Love ya!




Seeing the holiday window dressings for the Dayton’s Project, I wondered: What would Brian Anderson, the not-to-be-beat booster for Minneapolis, have made of them? These sparkling, 3-D ads were a lot more attractive than plywood but served the same purpose: boarding up windows in an empty building. After its nearly 100 years as the Dayton’s department store, a few of its now-ghostly eight floors are to be filled with food experiences. Someday. For months, I’ve caught occasional glimpses of construction lamps turned on inside to indicate people may be working.


